08-10-2011, 05:25 PM
I suppose like most things there are pros and cons, with this subject being no different.
My parents were grandparents when I came along ... 22 years after my brother.
The pros were that my parents were no longer pre-occupied with mortgage payments or such, they were well established with their finances, home and just stuff in general.
They had more time and patience for me, at the same time they're energy levels were beginning to slow down.
I do remember a time when I felt embarrassed of their age compared to the young parents of my friends.
The generation gap was sometimes extreme which caused larger than normal issues, especially when I was in my teens.
They also experienced pros and cons. They often told me that I helped to keep them young, while at the same time I exhausted them.
I think for men it may be easier as it's usually mothers that invest more time and energy rearing children. My mother's pregnancy with me was hard on
her system and she became quite ill after my birth, though I guess this could be so for any mother, young or old.
I heard of a woman in her sixties some years ago that became pregnant through medical help .... imo that's extreme ... even her body knew this.
An age gap such as that is imo too wide ... she'd be 65 when the child entered grade one, 75 at graduation.
My parents were grandparents when I came along ... 22 years after my brother.
The pros were that my parents were no longer pre-occupied with mortgage payments or such, they were well established with their finances, home and just stuff in general.
They had more time and patience for me, at the same time they're energy levels were beginning to slow down.
I do remember a time when I felt embarrassed of their age compared to the young parents of my friends.
The generation gap was sometimes extreme which caused larger than normal issues, especially when I was in my teens.
They also experienced pros and cons. They often told me that I helped to keep them young, while at the same time I exhausted them.
I think for men it may be easier as it's usually mothers that invest more time and energy rearing children. My mother's pregnancy with me was hard on
her system and she became quite ill after my birth, though I guess this could be so for any mother, young or old.
I heard of a woman in her sixties some years ago that became pregnant through medical help .... imo that's extreme ... even her body knew this.
An age gap such as that is imo too wide ... she'd be 65 when the child entered grade one, 75 at graduation.
You give to the world when you're giving your best to somebody else.