ALEX CHANCE MCCONNEL

[Todd]

HK,

The problem I have here is that this is a sad topic. Sad topics about important things are as hard to write as love poetry. It is hard to capture true emotion and the deliver often comes off as trite.

I think that's the issue here. 

A few line comments

Well this is my hello
This is my goodbye--No real issue with this opening. It's an entry point. It isn't hugely evocative but the immediate contrast does do something for you.
It's hard to say these things--this however is a bland and general line. There is some truth to it though in the execution of the work. IT IS HARD to say these things or write them. Instead of actually saying them we often get flooded with generalities.
I'll always wonder why
You would have been a joy
I know you'd make me proud--read these three lines and ask yourself, "am I giving general surface statements, or am I giving concrete specifics?" Do you see what I mean?
But life didn't quite give you the chance
To really come around--This line is the surface triteness I'm referring to. 
I love the name your mother gave you
I know shes very sad--apostrophe she's. Is this truly what you want to convey that she's very sad. I'd say it goes beyond this. I know you know this. Until your poem can beyond these simple flat statements, it isn't serving you well. 
But the fact she got to know you
It really makes her glad--No. This is too close to the previous statement. You hint at sadness and then close down any buildup of tension with this line. Don't do this please. Poetry like any writing needs to maintain and build tension--with this sort of subject matter especially.
She didn't see your face--That sounds mindblowing but you've just ended the last line with her being glad. Do you see how out of sequence this feels? If you rewrote the poem as the "Five Stages of a Miscarriage" you would have a better sense of how to transition from grief to anger to maybe finally eventually acceptance.
Or know quite who you'd be
Just like the rest of the would--I think you mean world here. You are panning out too much. The lens needs a tighter focus. Forget the world stay with the mother.
Who didn't get to see
But tho they may not know you--though not the abbreviation tho (not something you want to do with this subject matter especially).
There's few who'll never forget--This line doesn't ring true. The world rushes on to forget our tragedies especially when they didn't have a personal direct connection with the subject of our tragedies--that isn't true for the parents. Again tighter lens.
Like me, I promise you
I'll always be your proud Aunt.--Given the context, proud for what reason?
I may have never known your gender--Seems an oddly clinical statement. Alex can be either gender but by putting a complete name in the title the implication is that the parents knew whether they'd have a boy or a girl.
Or got to hold you in my arms
But that doesn't mean your not real--you're not your
That doesn't mean your forever gone--same here
Maybe from this Earth
You'll never get to be
But one day in heaven
Ill be there for you to see-I'll

This needs to move from general and vague to concrete and specific if it's going to work.

I hope the comments help.

Best,

Todd