02-06-2013, 11:33 AM
Disagreeing doesn't make you devilish in the slightest, abu. At a very basic level this is an argument of semantics. I am not married either, for all sorts of reasons, but I refer to "my husband" regularly. We have the same legal standing as if we were married. We do get annoyed when people continually ask us when the wedding is. I suppose the biggest difference is, if we want to get married then we can.
I was married. Having a wedding most definitely did not make me feel as if everything was all ok. It was an unequal relationship and I certainly never felt it was the partnership that I have now. (It was all about the tittles
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Much is made of the "sanctity of marriage". Much wrong has been excused by virtue of it "happening within a marriage". Will allowing marriage make people more committed? No. Will allowing marriage make everyone equal? No. Will allowing marriage rid relationships of fear, mistrust, resentment, infidelity, violence and pain? No.
But not allowing it doesn't make a whole lot of sense either, when the moral highground is most often occupied by a kind of lowlife.
I was married. Having a wedding most definitely did not make me feel as if everything was all ok. It was an unequal relationship and I certainly never felt it was the partnership that I have now. (It was all about the tittles
)Much is made of the "sanctity of marriage". Much wrong has been excused by virtue of it "happening within a marriage". Will allowing marriage make people more committed? No. Will allowing marriage make everyone equal? No. Will allowing marriage rid relationships of fear, mistrust, resentment, infidelity, violence and pain? No.
But not allowing it doesn't make a whole lot of sense either, when the moral highground is most often occupied by a kind of lowlife.
It could be worse